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466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
Posted:
Hello all how are ya?well I havent been active here for a bit due too my fixation on a pair of pretty brown eyes.my ytrouble however is that the eyes belong to my best freind.it would seem that I am constantly thinking aboot her and I get that weird tingly feelin like when you were 12 or 13 gettin a first kiss or something,everyu time I am with her.At first I didnt want to say anything to her and let it pass,cuz I didnt want things to get weird.Well now things are getting weird for me and I dont know what to do.I treasure our freindship above all else,and dont want to ruin it.but I find everything about her beutiful and cant stand to see her with some one else.I know that most of you are very wise and wordly so I ask your help .or maybe I just wanted to get this out. I cant talk to any of my freinds aboot it because we share all the same freinds and have for years.any ways I would appreciate your input.
Hello all how are ya?well I havent been active here for a bit due too my fixation on a pair of pretty brown eyes.my ytrouble however is that the eyes belong to my best freind.it would seem that I am constantly thinking aboot her and I get that weird tingly feelin like when you were 12 or 13 gettin a first kiss or something,everyu time I am with her.At first I didnt want to say anything to her and let it pass,cuz I didnt want things to get weird.Well now things are getting weird for me and I dont know what to do.I treasure our freindship above all else,and dont want to ruin it.but I find everything about her beutiful and cant stand to see her with some one else.I know that most of you are very wise and wordly so I ask your help .or maybe I just wanted to get this out. I cant talk to any of my freinds aboot it because we share all the same freinds and have for years.any ways I would appreciate your input.
There are no obstacles only challenges.
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HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Posted:
I don't understand why people get confused about this. What is a truly pefect relationship other than a friendship with a physical element added?
You have been friends for...how long? You could be good friends forever. For some reason, people decide that throwing love into the mix is going to mess it all up.
It depends on where you are in your life. Are you ready to find that one relationship that will last forever? Then your best friend is the one for you. Do you still want to play the field for a while? Then NO, you're right...that will ruin your friendship, then.
Figure out where you want the relationship to go, first.
I don't understand why people get confused about this. What is a truly pefect relationship other than a friendship with a physical element added?
You have been friends for...how long? You could be good friends forever. For some reason, people decide that throwing love into the mix is going to mess it all up.
It depends on where you are in your life. Are you ready to find that one relationship that will last forever? Then your best friend is the one for you. Do you still want to play the field for a while? Then NO, you're right...that will ruin your friendship, then.
Figure out where you want the relationship to go, first.
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
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2,996 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
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2,996 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Posted:
Listen to Mike...
He is smart
I hope you figure it out
Listen to Mike...
He is smart
I hope you figure it out
It was a day for screaming at inanimate objects.
What this calls for is a special mix of psychology and extreme violence...
Ninja Rockstar!
1,100 posts
Location: Denver, Co. U.S.A.
1,100 posts
Location: Denver, Co. U.S.A.
Posted:
You have two options as I see it.
option, the first:
You can go for it. Things will be really cool. There is nothing better than a healty relationship with your best friend, and you have no idea how intense love can be until it's with your best friend.
option, the second:
You can chill out completely, and I mean completely.
This is why: If you go around harbouring feelings for her and do nothing you will end up sabotaging the relationship. It will end slowly and painfully and will tear you up just as much if not worse than if things go bad romanticly. At least if you give it a go if things get bad at least you'll have tried and you can deal with the same pain you would have anyway, but at least this way you spend a year opening your wrists wondering what it would have been like had you tried. And if things go well, than you will know bliss like you never have.
But it seems to me that you don't have a lot of options. Your feelings are there, it's not bloody likely that they are going to go away, or that you can keep them gaurded enough to keep your friendship as vibrant as it is now without doing serious emotional harm to yourself.
I would advise that you don't do a lot of waiting either. I did when I went through this, and I had to wait, and watch as she went through boyfriends before I could have my shot again and it was horrible. It actually affected our relationship later in ways I could not have imagined.
So do it, do it now, and go at it like you were James Bond, because if you don't you will regret it. Mine ended horribly, I was fucked up for years, but if I had the choice to do it over I would in half a second, because the was worth my heartbreak for the good times. The good times were better than anything I could have dreamed.
You have two options as I see it.
option, the first:
You can go for it. Things will be really cool. There is nothing better than a healty relationship with your best friend, and you have no idea how intense love can be until it's with your best friend.
option, the second:
You can chill out completely, and I mean completely.
This is why: If you go around harbouring feelings for her and do nothing you will end up sabotaging the relationship. It will end slowly and painfully and will tear you up just as much if not worse than if things go bad romanticly. At least if you give it a go if things get bad at least you'll have tried and you can deal with the same pain you would have anyway, but at least this way you spend a year opening your wrists wondering what it would have been like had you tried. And if things go well, than you will know bliss like you never have.
But it seems to me that you don't have a lot of options. Your feelings are there, it's not bloody likely that they are going to go away, or that you can keep them gaurded enough to keep your friendship as vibrant as it is now without doing serious emotional harm to yourself.
I would advise that you don't do a lot of waiting either. I did when I went through this, and I had to wait, and watch as she went through boyfriends before I could have my shot again and it was horrible. It actually affected our relationship later in ways I could not have imagined.
So do it, do it now, and go at it like you were James Bond, because if you don't you will regret it. Mine ended horribly, I was fucked up for years, but if I had the choice to do it over I would in half a second, because the was worth my heartbreak for the good times. The good times were better than anything I could have dreamed.
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2,905 posts
Location: San Diego California
2,905 posts
Location: San Diego California
Posted:
The way I look at it, the best love relationships come from the best friendships. Take your time and dont rush anything. I dont reccomend not saying anything, the worst thing in the world is the "what if" feeling.
The way I look at it, the best love relationships come from the best friendships. Take your time and dont rush anything. I dont reccomend not saying anything, the worst thing in the world is the "what if" feeling.
Some Jarhead last night: "this dumb a$$ thinks hes fireproof"
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Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
6,140 posts
Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Posted:
I once fell in love with my best friend.
But i kept it secret...big mistake! I found out, too late, that he also fancied me.
But it was too late as i moved away, and he moved away. If only we had told each other earlier it might have worked out.
My advice is, tell her! flirt with her! drop hints, do anything but let her know.
Alice
I once fell in love with my best friend.
But i kept it secret...big mistake! I found out, too late, that he also fancied me.
But it was too late as i moved away, and he moved away. If only we had told each other earlier it might have worked out.
My advice is, tell her! flirt with her! drop hints, do anything but let her know.
Alice
Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...
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Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.
1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.
Posted:
So now I sit here and wonder what went wrong and if things will ever be the same. I guess what im trying to say is something that may not even be applicable to your situation and may be more me venting then actual advice. But I would say don't start a relationship over a distance, especially with your best friend.
quote:Me and my best friend had the same reasoning when we decided to go beyond friendship. It all happened over a painfully long distance and when she came back to my area things totally fell apart. Im not sure why or how. she said she won't tell me untill she is ready, which turns out to be some incomprehensibly long and indefinate amount of time. It's been 6 months since she came back.
Originally posted by MikeGinny:
I don't understand why people get confused about this. What is a truly pefect relationship other than a friendship with a physical element added?
You have been friends for...how long? You could be good friends forever. For some reason, people decide that throwing love into the mix is going to mess it all up.
So now I sit here and wonder what went wrong and if things will ever be the same. I guess what im trying to say is something that may not even be applicable to your situation and may be more me venting then actual advice. But I would say don't start a relationship over a distance, especially with your best friend.
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Location: Melbourne
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Location: Melbourne
Posted:
I say go for it. Its better then the "what if's" because they come back to haunt you in other ways...
If you were to have another relationship, the "what if's" will drive you crazy.
But I also advise, look out before you move, and make sure that no one will get hurt in the process...
The first person I ever trusted and loved dumped me for his best friend. I was screwed over for a year. The pain is so unimaginable.
I say go for it. Its better then the "what if's" because they come back to haunt you in other ways...
If you were to have another relationship, the "what if's" will drive you crazy.
But I also advise, look out before you move, and make sure that no one will get hurt in the process...
The first person I ever trusted and loved dumped me for his best friend. I was screwed over for a year. The pain is so unimaginable.
You've got to move fast to beat the Devil - Your arm's too short to box with God.
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1,463 posts
Location: Florida
1,463 posts
Location: Florida
Posted:
Are you afraid that she doesnt feel the same way?
you must consider any option you can think of and think which one will work for you in you situation...
you can do many things:
-wait and see
-talk to her
-try to figure out if she could feel the same way
-let your feelings diminish (NOT recomended!)
-not say anything (NOT recomended)
These are just some possibilities but there are many more. You just have to think about how it could affect you both all these possible situations and then with your best effort try to choose the right option... The one the 'feels' right.
Drome
Are you afraid that she doesnt feel the same way?
you must consider any option you can think of and think which one will work for you in you situation...
you can do many things:
-wait and see
-talk to her
-try to figure out if she could feel the same way
-let your feelings diminish (NOT recomended!)
-not say anything (NOT recomended)
These are just some possibilities but there are many more. You just have to think about how it could affect you both all these possible situations and then with your best effort try to choose the right option... The one the 'feels' right.
Drome
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466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
Posted:
Of coarse(spelling?)you are all right ,and I appreciate your responses.I always go over there or met up with the intentions to make myself known but its fuckin weird,I can talk to most any beutiful women ,or even to a cop and always know what to say,but when I get near her I get all dumb and clumsy. but I shall have to deal with it.
sheesh I can drive at beyond reckless speeds,breathe fire,and spin really heavy led poi close to my head without breakin a sweat,only to be brought down by pretty brown eyes and curly red hair.
Of coarse(spelling?)you are all right ,and I appreciate your responses.I always go over there or met up with the intentions to make myself known but its fuckin weird,I can talk to most any beutiful women ,or even to a cop and always know what to say,but when I get near her I get all dumb and clumsy. but I shall have to deal with it.
sheesh I can drive at beyond reckless speeds,breathe fire,and spin really heavy led poi close to my head without breakin a sweat,only to be brought down by pretty brown eyes and curly red hair.
There are no obstacles only challenges.
Very funny scotty now beam down my pants.
[colour."green"}What would willie do?
AHH theres too many wee leprechauns i cannae squash them all
member
1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.
1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.
Posted:
Woah you never mentioned the curly red hair before.
My best advice is keep your feelings bottled up and point her my way.
PS-kidding.
Woah you never mentioned the curly red hair before.
My best advice is keep your feelings bottled up and point her my way.
PS-kidding.
Laguna dude
1,438 posts
Location: Laguna, California, US
1,438 posts
Location: Laguna, California, US
Posted:
vape,
this is wonderful to hear.
deep apologies gotta run right now, email me anytime ya like. if this thread suits, & you'd like it, plan to be back here later for better talk.
with all my love to ya dude,
~ Mikie
vape,
this is wonderful to hear.
deep apologies gotta run right now, email me anytime ya like. if this thread suits, & you'd like it, plan to be back here later for better talk.
with all my love to ya dude,
~ Mikie
molten cheers,
~ FireMike
FireMikeZ@yahoo.com (personal messages welcome, no promo spam, please!)
Laguna, California, US
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Berlin, Ireland
Carpal \'Tunnel
2,617 posts
Location: Berlin, Ireland
Posted:
Dude, the reason why you can't talk to her is the red hair. As soon as I saw that I had to post. I never fell in love properly till I met my current girlfriend (who has red hair). I was the same with her, but a year on I can tell you. That not being able to talk to someone is a sure sign of two things. First the hair and second a girl who you want to treat like a princess.
Do yourself a favour....Just say "screw it nothing ventured nothing gained" and go for it.
Best of luck man!!!
Dude, the reason why you can't talk to her is the red hair. As soon as I saw that I had to post. I never fell in love properly till I met my current girlfriend (who has red hair). I was the same with her, but a year on I can tell you. That not being able to talk to someone is a sure sign of two things. First the hair and second a girl who you want to treat like a princess.
Do yourself a favour....Just say "screw it nothing ventured nothing gained" and go for it.
Best of luck man!!!
I live in a world of infinite possibilities.
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466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
466 posts
Location: Ft worth Texas
Posted:
quote:amen
Originally posted by deepsoulsheep:
First the hair and second a girl who you want to treat like a princess
There are no obstacles only challenges.
Very funny scotty now beam down my pants.
[colour."green"}What would willie do?
AHH theres too many wee leprechauns i cannae squash them all
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